10 Crucial Questions every youth leader should be asking themselves

Asking questions is a good thing. Questions have a way of amplifying weaknesses and clarifying priorities. Perhaps that's why Jesus asked so many questions in his earthly ministry. Did you know that there are around 300 recorded times that Jesus asked questions of some sort in the Gospels? He used questions as a spotlight into peoples' souls. Sometimes the result was them repenting (Woman at the well.) Other times the result was them rejecting (Pharisees.) One time the result was his crucifixion.

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The Youth Leader's False Dilemma

Every youth leader has a false dilemma. This "dilemma" is whether or not to focus on evangelism or discipleship with their youth ministry. 

The typical youth leader's thought process may go something like this, "If I focus on evangelism the kingdom will grow and so will my youth group. But if I focus on discipleship my teens will grow spiritually. I guess I'll focus on discipleship first and then my teens will be ready to evangelize."

But how has that approach worked with the adults in our churches? As a result of this "disciple first/evangelize later" approach we have a bunch of Christians filling our pews that may know basic doctrine but have lost their passion, urgency and vision to reach the lost. As a matter of fact the average Christian adult has never shared the Gospel with one of their peers.

But the youth leader's dilemma is really no dilemma at all if we take a look at the ministry of Jesus to his young disciples. Jesus had a "disciple now/evangelize now" approach that took his disciples deep into the Word while taking them wide (on mission) into the world.

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The Hardest Question to ask about Summer Camp

There are hard questions to ask every year about summer camp. Questions like, "Who should be our next camp speaker?", "What should be our theme?" and "How much money should we budget?" are all important camp questions.

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Josh Griffin + me + "The Giant Wheel" = Tons of Fun

Yesterday Josh Griffin and I met for lunch at Wahoo's Fish Taco in Orange County. After a heaping helping of their Protein Plate (delicious by the way) our President, Debbie Bresina, talked us into filming a short conversation on "The Giant Wheel" at the Irvine Spectrum Center, well, just because. 

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5 of the Biggest Myths in Youth Ministry

When it comes to youth mininstry there are tons of myths floating around out there. Here are 5 of the biggest :

1.  The "Youth Ministry is a 20th Century invention" Myth

When Jesus, the ultimate rabbi, took his disicples into Capernaum only Peter and Jesus paid the temple tax (Matthew 17:24-27.) This is significant because the temple tax was only applicable to those 20 years old and older (Exodus 30:14.) If I'm reading these passages correctly then Jesus was a youth leader...with only one adult sponsor (Peter) and one really rotten teen (Judas.)

In Titus 2:1-8 Paul challenges Timothy to have the older men teach the younger men and the older women to teach the younger women. These "younger" were most likely teenagers who were being ministered to and mentored by older adults.

Don't buy the myth that youth ministry is a 20th Century invention. It began 2000 years ago. Let's get our adults to do what Jesus did by getting them to invest in a group of teenagers.

2.  The "Burn the box" Myth

We have all received a youth ministry box of sorts with lots of cool stuff in it. It has dodge balls, pizza, self-image talks, worship songs and marshmallow guns.

Some people say that the youth ministry box should be burned and we should start over. Because youth ministry in many circles has not been as effective as it could be, the thought is that we need to shake the Etch-A-Sketch and start over.

But that's not the answer.

I'm grateful for the youth ministry box we have received from our youth ministry forefathers. The average youth leaders has digital lessons to teach truth and game apps to break down barriers in the group. We have more camps, conferences, events and retreats to choose from than ever before in youth ministry history.

And we should all be grateful for these!

All of the items "in the box" can become nudges to gently push teenagers one millimeter (or, if we're lucky one meter) closer to Jesus.

We just need to create room in the box for the things that matter most. For instance, there's not much room in the typical youth ministry box for intercessory prayer, relational evangelism and discipleship multiplication. Room must be made but we don't have to burn the box to do that. 

For a list of non-negotiables that should be in the box, check out Gospeladvancing.com.

3.  The "Either/Or Discipleship/Evangelistic" Myth

Most youth groups fall into one of two categories: They are a mile wide and an inch deep (aka "evangelism-focused.") Or they a mile deep and an inch wide (aka "discipleship-focused".)

But the truth is they should be both deep and wide! It shouldn't be either/or but both/and!

Jesus took his disciples deep into the truths about God. But he took them wide with the Gospel at the same time. He had a "grow as you go" philosophy of discipleship. As his mostly teenaged followers took the Gospel across Judea he taught them the deeper truths about God. When they got excited about being able to cast out demons, he challenged their theology by encouraging them to be more excited about the "steak" of their salvation (Luke 10:20) than the "sizzle" of their miraculous powers.

Teenagers grow quicker when they have something on the line and evangelism puts their social equity on the line in a big way. If a teen claims the name of Christ they could be called names by their friends. If they align themselves with Jesus they could be at the back of the line when it comes to being "in" with the popular kids. But this risk accelerates the discipleshp process at warp speed.

Spirtitually speaking the teens that go the most grow the most. By the way, if you haven't signed your teens up for Dare 2 Share Live yet (coming October 13th) it will be a great opportunity for them to grow as they go. Teens will be trained, equipped and unleashed in a single day across the nation to reach their communities for Christ!

4.  The "Moms and dads should be the only youth leaders" Myth

There is a strand of stringent thinking in the ministry world that says moms and dads should be the only youth leaders in the lives of their own children. The problem is that far too many teenagers attending youth group today don't have believing parents. And, even if their parents are Christians, many aren't spiritually strong enough to lead them with enough impact to make a difference.

For example my mom was not even a believer when I was a teenager. I actually got to lead her to Jesus at the age of 15 and I discipled her!

There are more and more teenagers, like I was, who may not have Christian parents and desperately need Christian adults in their lives to coach and mentor them spiriutally.

But even with Christian parents it is important to have other Christian adults as strong influences on their teenagers. I am the dad of two teenagers and am immensely grateful for the other Christian adults who speak into their lives. Some of these are official "youth leaders" and others are just adults that my teenagers know and respect.

It's a myth to think that moms and dads are the only youth leaders in the lives of their teenagers.

5.  The "Lead pastors who leave youth ministry are sell outs" Myth

Who hasn't heard this said about a youth leader "he's just using youth ministry as a stepping stone to a real job...becoming a pastor." Well, being a pastor is a high calling. And just because you become a lead pastor doesn't mean you have lost your passion for youth!

You can get into youth ministry and get out but once youth ministry "gets into you" you can never leave. Some of the best youth leaders I know were former youth pastors. I often call these kinds of pastors youth pastors with authority...and a budget!

When I was a preaching pastor I cleared the path for the youth ministry at our church to be effective. I supported the youth pastor, deflected criticism about the youth ministry and challenged the people of our church to get behind the youth ministry in a big way. If he needed budget It'd try to get it. If he needed support I'd seek to provide it.

Lead pastors who leave youth ministry aren't necessarily "sell outs" who gave away their passion for youth for a bigger paycheck and more glory. Instead many of them become the biggest advocates for youth ministry in the entire church.

These are five of the biggest myths about youth ministry. What are some others?

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Is your youth ministry program stuck in the eighties?

What was the formula for youth group programming in the awesome and audacious decade of the eighties? It was a weird science mixture of dodgeball games, singalong worship, quick lessons, cold drinks, hot pizza, caffeinated all-nighters, occasional mission trips, week-long camps and weekend retreats. 

Although the clothes have changed (thank the Lord), most of our strategies to reach and disciple youth have not. For the most part, youth ministry today is stuck in the 80s.

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The #1 Reason for youth ministry burnout

Youth leaders face a ton of pressure. Unrealistic parental expectations, teen apathy, stressed marriages, low pay, overpacked schedules and under-appreciated efforts are all contributors to youth leader burnout. According to The State of Youth Ministry Report commissioned by Youth Specialties, the average youth leader stays in their position for 3 years.

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5 simple but effective ways of dealing with the naysayers in your ministry

"When Sanballat heard that we were building the wall of Jerusalem, he was very angry and upset. He started making fun of the Jews.  Sanballat talked with his friends and the army at Samaria and said, 'What are these weak Jews doing? Do they think we will leave them alone? Do they think they will offer sacrifices? Maybe they think they can finish building in only one day. They cannot bring stones back to life from these piles of trash and dirt. These are just piles of ashes and dirt!'” Nehemiah 4:1,2

When Nehemiah began to rebuild the broken down walls around Jerusalem a few naysaysers began to say "nay!" They yelled "nay!" to Nehemiah's vision of restoring Jerusalem to it's former glory, "nay!" to bringing the scattered Jews back to Jerusalem and "nay!" to helping this city on a hill shine the glory of God to the nations like it once did.

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The Christian School Dilemma: Producing Legalists, Hedonists or Activists

I went to a Christian school. My kids go to a Christian school. I'm not anti-Christian school (or home school or public school for that matter.) But I am convinced that Christian schools have a dilemma. The leadership of these schools must decide if they are they going to produce legalists, hedonists or activists.

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Discipling teens is more like playing pinball than going bowling

Over the last 25+ years I have had the privilege of ministering to over a million teenagers and equip tens of thousands of youth leaders to to build Gospel Advancing, disciple-multiplying youth ministries. During this time I have written twenty books either to teenagers or about teenagers. Some would even consider me an "expert" on reaching and discipling the next generation.

And then something strange happened...I had kids. And, now, those kids are teenagers. There's nothing like raising two teenagers to help you know what works and what doesn't when it comes to discipleship.

As a father of a 13 year old girl and a 17 year old young man I have had a mini-awakening about what it actually takes to disciple teenagers. Suffice it to say, I may have to rewrite a few chapters in a handful of my books. Raising and discipling two teens is a trying and exciting experience that my wife and I are continuing to learn from every single day.

For decades, down deep in my spiritual subconscious, I think I had a "bowling" philosophy of discipling teenagers. I thought that, if I rolled the truth ball straight down the lane of their lives, there was a good chance of getting a discipleship strike in the hearts of my kids.

After all, that's where most of the arrows are pointed on the youth ministry lane. Read that book, follow that program, grow them "God's way" and there's a good chance of bowling a solid game with your teenagers.

And my wife and I have tried to do that with our kids. We've gone through great programs and great books with great insights. We've used discipleship curriculum and our very own Dare 2 Share evangelism training tools with our kids. We've had prayer walks, long talks, late nights and, yes, verbal fights. Along the way we hit some strikes, a few spares and plenty of parental gutter balls.

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